In the past few months, a few Nollywood actress have actually boldly said on social media that women should tolerate infidelity because it is in men’s nature to cheat. They strongly believe that all men will cheat and all women should not leave them because of that.
I read stuff like these from men and women of Nigeria many times and I just shake my head in amusement, but when I read this one that they said Seyi Hunter said, I remembered a video I had watched last week.
In the video, a woman confronted her ex-boyfriend who cheated on her many times during their relationship, she wanted to know why he cheated on her so much though she gave her everything to the relationship.
The guy in return asked her why she stayed with him after finding out he was cheating.
This was the most powerful part of the video for me. And I have been applying this to other situations in my life since then.
At some point in every woman’s life, we have to be honest to ourselves and answer this question. Must we stay with men that break our hearts, slap us here and there, treat us like trash, cheat on us, lie to us, destroy our esteem and infect us with STDs? Why should we stay with a man that we will need to give condoms and lubricants to go sleep with other women ? Isn’t this madness?
This is the question I have for Seyi Hunter, I have read what she was quoted as saying, but I am asking her, why should a woman stay with a man like this?
Below is what Seyi Hunter said according to Vanguard
It isn’t right for any lady to walk out of her marriage for any reason, except domestic violence is involved. I am not talking about occasional slaps here and there. If he beats you like he’ll beat a thief, my dear sister you need to run for your life because he might kill you one day or disfigure you.
But if you leave because of cheating, then you’re the most foolish person alive and you’re not going by the Holy Bible. The Bible says man shall not live by bread alone. You don’t expect him to eat Egusi soup the rest of his life; he has to eat Afang, Ogbono, etc, once in a while. Let’s not forget men are polygamous in nature, it’s been there right from the days of Abraham and it cannot be changed.
The way entertainers are ending their marriage is alarming. Is it that Ubi Franklin is a wife beater or Lilian Esoro left because he’s a chronic womanizer? Same goes for Tonto Dikeh and Churchill. If these ladies left their marriages for the latter, it means this generation is worse than I thought, because we’ve lost it.
No patience, understanding or endurance to allow the man test the waters once in a while. I hope they settle their issues, but if they won’t, let them hurry with the divorce, so that single girls can make their moves on these guys. Before the women eat me raw, women are not allowed to cheat. The men are to love us, care for us, support us in everything and provide for us, while we do all these and more for them.
Every smart woman will provide her man with condoms and lubrication and pray that the Holy Spirit guides them to use it on their side chicks, so they don’t bring infection home to us.